cannedtheawesome asked: Hey Zoey, hope you're having a great day! I was wondering how you stop doing the whole depression thing, because that's no fun, for me at least?
See, nah, you got it all wrong. The trick here to mastering your depression is accepting that it’s not going to go away. There’s no cure for it. But there are loads of ways of managing it and making it easier to deal with.
By expecting your depression to one day just disappear you’re just going to end up frustrated that it’s not going away, you’re going to get more depressed because you’re still depressed, an endless cycle.
So what you got to do, is accept your depression states, and cherish your happy states. Sometimes I wake up and I’m a huge grump, but I’ve been dealing with this for over a decade, so I can now tell myself “Okay, you’re experiencing depression right now, and that kind of sucks, but you know this will go away later in the day or tomorrow, just look forward to the happy moments”. And that helps a lot. The first step really is acceptance, the sooner you can accept that you’re depressed, the less of a bother it will be.
There are things that can help a lot, talking to people being a big one, if you can talk to a therapist and just blurt out all your problems every week, you’ll feel a lot more refreshed and clear-minded within minutes. Or confide in a friend, or parent, just having someone to vent to can make the feelings seem much smaller
There’s also medication, but again, there’s no medicine that actually cures depression, what the medication does is just make the depression easier to handle. When I needed anti-depressants, I guess my mood before was like “BLARGH I’M DEPRESSED EVERYTHING SUCKS I JUST WANT TO SLEEP”, but then once I was on them it was more “Okay I’m depressed right now, but that’s okay because tomorrow I got a date with Fiona and I have chocolate in the fridge”. It helps you accept your depression and helps you manage it better. I’m now off meds and my brain is now thankfully still in that later state, where I get depressed but I’m okay with it because I know it’s only fleeting.
So that’s the trick. That’s the way to get through depression. Let it be a part of you, don’t feel guilty about it or try and squish it down, it happens, the less time you spend worrying and getting angry about it, means the more time you have to focus and appreciate when things are actually going okay.
Humans are two sides, a yin and yang, you can’t have happiness without knowing your sadness. And being happy all of the time would be just as tiring as being sad all of the time. Balance your mind and you’ll find yourself whole.
Good luck <3